Salams,
I've never worn nail polish. To be exact I think I wore nail polish when I was 5 or 6 years old, but I haven't ever since.
There is a huge push to beautify yourself as a Muslim woman. Some do it in public, some do in private. But it seems that most Muslim women are extreme self-beautifiers. (of course there are exceptions,I'm one of them). Although recently I have semi-joined this trend of self-beautification, at such a small level that most people would laugh. The first time I went to an all-female Arab party I was scared, like really scared. Women I had seen in the masjid in jilbabs, abayas, took them off and really bared all. Low cut clothes, hi-lighted hair, loads and loads of makeup, heels to kill, and lots and lots of dancing that would put Beyonce to shame. I couldnt take my eyes off the floor, it was embarassing, and I was way too shy to watch. (This is not to say that Pakistani/Indian women parties are much better, they probably just wear more clothing).
Now I know femininity is important, it is important for female self-preservation. The outlet is needed. But to this extent, I'm not sure. The clothes, the hair, the dancing seemed so natural to these women, I wondered what was wrong with me? I've tried to get an answer from different sisters, the answer is always the same or similar, it's fun, we want to have fun, don't you just want to have fun sometimes? Er, ya, I do!? Dude, I'm not the biggest prude that ever lived this side of the hemisphere, but some of this stuff doesnt seem natural. How about we could dress up, look natural at some level, and just hang, watch a movie, talk, etc? Do we need to out beautify each other and learn these really complicated dances to be in each other's company? Who knows, maybe I'm missing something, so someone, some sister who gets "it" out there, could you fill me in? And you know maybe I could start practicing the moves from Shahrukh's latest movie.
Rabea
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hey i agree but i think ive only recently really understood what its all about for these girls. we all have our strengths/weaknesses. girls who are good at dancing like to show it off, just like people who are smart like to show that off (not that these are mutually exclusive personality traits). and you dont have to know HOW to dance to be a part of it. i just do whatever, but ive learned that its better if you just stand up and do something (even if you make a fool of yourself- something im not afraid to do) than sit on the sidelines and appear disapproving. its not good.. at least i dont like to encourage dancing parties but i think some people enjoy them and if im invited to them im not entirely averse to participating either. but i def agree, i would pick hanging out over shaking the bootay any day.
hmm...Amna! you again ! :)
i totally agree,
ditto
ditto,
i just like using my brain even on my days off!
Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu.
Sister, why don't you just look to what Islam says and follow that. We all know that Islam is perfect and permeates every aspect of life, whether that life were manifest 1600 years ago or right now in 2014, it makes no difference to the fact that Allah Subhana wa ta'ala is right when they give us a command an we are obliged to follow it, not just out of simple gratefulness for the majesty of their creation, but to save our own skins, this life doesn't last long. One day you leave your friends a youth, with all the good looks anyone could want and a whole life ahead of you, and the next day come back an old woman, clutching her prayer beads, as if they were a life line. Time to pray runs out quickly sister, so i can only give the best advice and gift I can think of. Follow Islam. In ANY situation. These concepts of needing an outlet for feminine energy and having fun, have an effect on life, especially in our lives in this western hemisphere among the vast majority of unbelievers, mired, ceaselessly in the pit of their own sin. And unable to see it through the fog of ignorance and arrogance. So before you consider having fun in life, and letting loose and going to an all-girl arab party, remember there's an Islamic view on that, specifically speaking music, or any sound that leads you closer to Shaytan is forbidden, and dancing also is heavily discouraged, some scholars give the fatwa that it is haram, while others say it is Mukruh, which, in either case, i'm sure you'd not like to partake in. All i can say is that i urge you, desperately, to see through this fog of self-subjective, secularist thought and accept that the command of Allah is binding, permanent and there is rarely any valid excuse for not following it, expressing your femininity in the modern 21st century is not an excuse, by God if it meant that you had to live in a cave to live a pious life, then that's what you should strive to do, just as the sufi's and wali's and sahaba and prophets did before you. In the end, only Allah is the guide and the truth, there is no guide except them, may they guide you and me to the sirat-al-mustaqim.
Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu.
Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu.
Sister, why don't you just look to what Islam says and follow that. We all know that Islam is perfect and permeates every aspect of life, whether that life were manifest 1600 years ago or right now in 2014, it makes no difference to the fact that Allah Subhana wa ta'ala is right when they give us a command an we are obliged to follow it, not just out of simple gratefulness for the majesty of their creation, but to save our own skins, this life doesn't last long. One day you leave your friends a youth, with all the good looks anyone could want and a whole life ahead of you, and the next day come back an old woman, clutching her prayer beads, as if they were a life line. Time to pray runs out quickly sister, so i can only give the best advice and gift I can think of. Follow Islam. In ANY situation. These concepts of needing an outlet for feminine energy and having fun, have an effect on life, especially in our lives in this western hemisphere among the vast majority of unbelievers, mired, ceaselessly in the pit of their own sin. And unable to see it through the fog of ignorance and arrogance. So before you consider having fun in life, and letting loose and going to an all-girl arab party, remember there's an Islamic view on that, specifically speaking music, or any sound that leads you closer to Shaytan is forbidden, and dancing also is heavily discouraged, some scholars give the fatwa that it is haram, while others say it is Mukruh, which, in either case, i'm sure you'd not like to partake in. All i can say is that i urge you, desperately, to see through this fog of self-subjective, secularist thought and accept that the command of Allah is binding, permanent and there is rarely any valid excuse for not following it, expressing your femininity in the modern 21st century is not an excuse, by God if it meant that you had to live in a cave to live a pious life, then that's what you should strive to do, just as the sufi's and wali's and sahaba and prophets did before you. In the end, only Allah is the guide and the truth, there is no guide except them, may they guide you and me to the sirat-al-mustaqim.
Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu.
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