Sad wedding songs

Salams,
so today's the day for sad wedding songs...Musarrat Nazir does it best in the following song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5nK2rJytHo . Madhaniya...

So can't translate all of it, probably only a couple of lines, but the first two are enough to make you weep.

Basically she is saying look to who has given birth to this girl and now who is going to take her away...(much more effective in punjabi)...so skip ahead
she says, "lado - (the bride) - has become pardesi - or foreign/no longer one of us, some more sad stuff about mothers and daughters, etc

So to contrast with what goes on in weddings today, I remember meeting Dr. Israr in Pakistan when my brother got married. We went to give him a wedding invitation and a walima invitation(my brother's father in law is friends with Dr. Israr - and I sort of just tagged along), so Dr. Israr told us he can come to the walima b/c this is the sunnah, and there shouldn't be a rukhsathi b/c that is not from the sunnah. And why is the girl's family celebrating, it is a sad event for them, and they should not be burdened with the weight of the wedding.

So a continuation from the hadith that to break a woman is to divorce her, hmm well then what an important serious step it is to marry a woman. It is sad in a way b/c in many ways her future is sealed and even if she for some reason has to come out of the marriage, as the Prophet (saw) said, it will break her.

- Rabea